E109 | Anger Isn’t the Enemy – How To Use It Without Losing It | Dr. Mitch Abrams

Wish you handled anger better? You’re not alone – and you’re not broken. Learn how to transform anger into awareness. Dr. Mitch Abrams shares insights on emotional regulation, trauma, and emotional literacy. In this powerful episode of The 4 Habits Podcast, Dr. Andrea & Jon sit down with Dr. Mitch Abrams, a clinical and forensic psychologist who has spent 20+ years helping people – from inmates to executives – transform how they understand and regulate anger. Drawing from his bold book “I’m Not F*ing Angry!!!”, Mitch shares a radically compassionate take on anger management, emotional triggers, and what it really takes to build emotional control under pressure. Whether you tend to explode or shut down, this episode unpacks: • How anger can be a healthy response (if handled well) • What trauma does to our emotional wiring • How to press pause instead of reacting in regret • Why most people don’t actually need “anger management” – they need emotional literacy If you’re ready to build better relationships, lead under stress, or just stop saying things you regret – this one’s for you. ⏱️ EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS (TIMESTAMPS) 00:00 | The real story behind “I’m Not F***ing Angry!!!” 04:42 | Why prison taught Mitch more than his PhD 08:31 | Anger isn’t the problem – dysregulation is 11:58 | Fight, flight, freeze, or fawn: what’s your default? 15:36 | Men vs women: how we express anger differently 19:20 | “Emotional sobriety” – what it means and why it matters 24:05 | When high performers overheat: what to do 27:30 | How to press pause before you blow up 30:15 | Using anger as a force for healing 35:22 | Mitch’s personal journey with shame, burnout & rebuilding 39:40 | Final word: regulate, relate, respond ✅ NEXT STEPS SECTION 📍 Connect With Dr. Mitch Abrams: – Book (I’m Not F*ing Angry!!!): https://drmitchabrams.com/books/im-no... – Website: https://www.drmitchabrams.com – Instagram:   / mitchabramspsyd   – LinkedIn:   / drmitchabrams   – X: https://x.com/MitchAbramsPsyD 🎧 For More from The 4 Habits: – YouTube:    / @the4habits   – Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0fWvVbn... – FREE Quiz: http://the4habitsquiz.scoreapp.com – Course: https://learn.the4habits.com/courses/... – Book: https://the4habits.com/book/ – Suggest a guest: [email protected] #AngerManagement #EmotionalRegulation #WishYouHandledAngerBetter #TraumaHealing #HighPerformers #EmotionalIntelligence #RelationshipsMatter #HealthyRelationships #The4HabitsPod #PersonalGrowth #DrMitchAbrams #ConflictResolution #SelfLeadership