8 Toxic Things Parents Say: Harmful Words That Scar | Stoicism

8 Toxic Things Parents Say: Harmful Words That Scar | Stoicism In this video, we'll explore the 10 most harmful and toxic things well-meaning parents say to their children, and how adopting Stoic principles in parenting can help you avoid these common pitfalls. You will discover toxic things parents say and do. Some of the simply silly things toxic parenting say. You will also discover why these hurtful things parents say set scars on the children and while these things parents say make no sense. From phrases that can lead to low self-esteem to statements that can create anxiety, we'll discuss the potential harm caused by these comments and provide guidance on how to reframe them in a positive and empowering way. By being more mindful of our words, we can help our children develop a stronger sense of self and a more resilient mindset.  You will learn:  1. Harmful remarks about the child's appearance: Parents often unknowingly use toxic words that can deeply affect their children's self-esteem. 2. Asking Provocative Questions that Increase inferiority Complex: Questions like  Why do you walk like that? Why do you talk that way? These kinds of questions, especially from parents, can leave deep marks on a child’s mind.  3. Using Regretful Wishes: When a parent tells a child, “I regret having you,” or “I wish I never gave birth to you”  it’s not only hurtful—it strikes at the core of that child’s existence.  4. Saying Words that Make the child feel like a liability: When a parent says, "You exhaust me," or “ You cost me too much money.” It teaches the child to feel like a burden. 5. Saying Words that Breeds Unhealthy Comparisons: Unhealthy comparisons can deeply impact a child’s self-worth.  6. Using Abusive Words: Abusive words, such as calling a child "stupid" or a "loser," or “ worthless” can inflict lasting emotional wounds.  7. Saying words that Threatens The Child being left Alone. saying words like, “ I will disappear and you won't find me.”  8. Lashing out Empty Promises: Empty promises, like “We’ll go to the park tomorrow” or “I’ll play with you later” that never materialize, can deeply impact a child’s sense of trust.  9. Conditional love: This is when a parent’s affection depends on a child’s actions. For example, saying, “If you don’t get an A, I won’t love you,” or “You’ll only make me proud if you win.”  10.  Labeling the Child Negatively: When parents label their child with harsh words like, “You’re always a failure,” or other harsh words,, they’re not just criticizing behavior—they’re shaping identity.  Watch to learn how to create a more supportive and nurturing environment for your child to thrive. Timestamps: 0:00 0:38 Using Harmful Remarks About the Child's Appearance 1:44 Asking Provocative Questions that Increases Inferiority Complex 2:52 Using Regretful Wishes 4:48 Saying Words that makes the Child Feel Like a Liability 4:36 Words that Breeds unhealthy Comparison 5:48 Using Abusive Words 6:41 Saying Words that Threatens the Child Being Left Alone 7:52 Lashing out Empty Promises 8:56 Conditional Love 10:59 Labelling the Child Negatively #stoicism #parenting #mindfulness #philosophyinparenting #stoic #mindfulparenting #emotionalintelligence