Without yelling at them, how can I get my kids to listen?

It’s excruciating and incredibly frustrating when we cannot get our kids to listen to us - and comply - WITHOUT us raising our voice!🗣 And to add salt to the wound, we actually start off trying to talk nicely only to be ignored - until we have to start shouting.😧 This is one of the number 1 problems moms with neurodivergent kids come to me to and I have both neurotypical and neurodivergent kids and I can tell you… the difference is STARK. So 3 handles I’d like to leave you to look at the problem objectively. Try to isolate the most painful recurring situation that’s on loop in your family and just tackle that specific situation. Examine:👇 🌺1. Communication patterns - are we training our kids to only obey when we shout? What do we need to do differently to Get their attention Convey our instructions in a way that’s understood Check for understanding Help them follow through and comply 🌺2. Systems What I mean is there a predictable routine or order of things that is done? Do your kids know about what they have to do without you being the prompter? Do you have a visual reminder system that you can just point to instead of repeating and nagging and killing everybody softly with our voice? 🌺3. Motivation Do your kids have a motivation for getting the boring and routine things done? If there’s 1 thing that is painful for the ND brain - that is repetition. Because there is no dopamine and excitement - but we all know some tasks are just boring but necessary. Try different ways to help your child experience and own the importance or get your child to pair an extrinsic motivator to a non-preferred task It’s not easy when we lapse back in our habitual way of doing things the same-old way but we can change parenting practices that are not serving us. You’ve got this!💪 ✨FOLLOW US FOR MORE!✨ #gentleparent #parentingadhd #executivefunction #parentingtips #parentsupport #emotionalsupport #adhdkids #parentsupport #mindfulparenting #awareness #mentalhealth